"Who says its selfish?
"Where you invest your time and money is where your heart is"
Really?
Why not invest it or just plain save it for your wife and sons future?
Do you really need another bike.... No
Does the wife really need a necklace....No
Will saving your money for future things...College,vacations, etc etc
Be more of an investment..... Yes"
Well I am thankful that I have my priorities in order. I realize that most people in today's day and age do not. How many times have I watched people I know live paycheck to paycheck, spending there last 5$ on a pack of cigarettes or a McDonald's cheese burger. Gratefully I am blessed enough not to live this way.
And yes "Really" where you invest your time and money is where your heart is.
I agree with you that Investing and saving money is very important. Having a college fund for my children is vital, especially since I plan on paying for the first 4 years of school for them. Vacations are also very important. We have been lucky enough to purchase some time share that gives my family about 2 weeks a year, pretty much anywhere in the world. However for me and my family the most important investment I make is my tithes. So with my finances in order and having money that I set aside for toys and things that I enjoy doing, I decided rather than spend it on myself, I would spend it on my wife.
Does she need a necklace? No. But really do any of us "NEED" 90% of the stuff we have? Using that mentality we should live in a one room shack, with only the bare essentials. Gratefully we live in a very wealthy country that affords us many many things that we do not need. We also live in a country where a person such as myself can and did go from being a homeless, hopeless drug addict and alcoholic who couldn't keep a job to becoming the person I am today in a mere 8 years. Today I have an amazing life, a beautiful wife, a precious son, and most of all I love myself today. All of the material possessions are merely icing on the cake, you take all those things away and I am still rich beyond anything I could have ever imagined.
I say that I love myself today, because there was a time that I hated the person that i saw in the mirror. I wanted nothing more than to die, but was to chicken to actually kill myself. Through a series of events and people that have come into my life, along with a little (probably alot) of counseling I went from having no self esteem, to having a low self esteem, to having a self esteem, to actually liking myself. Until one day through a lot of hard work I woke up to realize I was no longer the same person I had been.
Is my life perfect today? No, I still deal with life's problems, I still struggle with many of my insecurities. The difference today is that I have tools do deal with my problems productively rather than destructively.
Quite honestly the only difference between me and the guy sitting in prison or the drunk guy sitting on the corner holding a sign that says something along the lines of ....Why lie I need beer...or Hungry please help...is the grace of God.
